What constitutes a friend? A while ago, I chatted with a friend of mine who apparently was in a fragile state. She asked me whether there is anything at all that can make me no longer consider her as a friend. There have been times when I doubted my friendship and even decided to end some of them. However, all of that were based on specific events. I do not think that I have measurable indicators that I can use to assess my friendship. However, that question got me thinking, who actually I consider as friend?
For me, a friend is someone who will listen to my story, who I can be comfortable with even in silence. A friend is someone who I want to share my happiness and frustration with; someone who I can trust with my secret and stories.
A friend is someone that is willing to lift me up when I am down, and hold me down when I get too high. A friend is someone that will ask me what's wrong, and respect my decision to not say anything. Someone who will lend a shoulder for me to cry on, and offer hug when I feel alone.
A friend is someone who I can be myself around, and who does not try to be another person around me. A friend is someone that will fight by my side, but will be the first to slap me when I went too far. A friend is someone who is not afraid to disagree with me, and will state disagreement straightforwardly. A friend is someone who I hate sometimes, but I will defend with all my strength and might. A friend may not always be the first thing in my mind, but has to know that whenever he/she needs me I will give him/her top priority.
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That is my selfish idea of a friend, of course a friend does not have to be ideal. In fact, the flaws are what make friendship so precious, and worth fighting for. I'm just glad that at this moment, I have such people around me.
~Cute ducky was taken from this place.
